new year new goals AND MOVING OUT???
Jan. 12th, 2011 07:27 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
soloprojectOffice opened on Jan.3 but I was there on the 4th. It was right back to work and some good news: that Vilgaile managed to get a visa to come back and work!!! The bad news is that the visa is only for 3 months until April but we hoped to have her until the end of the project and then later on worry about extending it. She'd been having some trouble with it earlier. They'd actually given her a visa for one month and at a wrong date so technically only viable for two more weeks, plus there is no Indian embassy in Lithuania, only in Poland, so it's all done by a service.
Vilgaile came on Jan 6, just as we left for company picnic to Dapoli in Konkan. It's a lovely area, very rural and there are virgin beaches everywhere, just flat sand and nice surf. But as you can expect, I slept through most of it, or tried to because traveling with Indians is a little challenging, I discovered. We left around midnight from the office (having a late shift, don't worry) and until 4 in the morning, they insisted on blaring very loud Hindi party music and dancing in the bus, standing up. To me it was very dangerous and susprising because some of them (all of them, actually) are SO MEEK in the office, always saying "Yes, Arvindsir, Nanamam" all the time! And here they were making a huge ruckus while Vilgaile and I thought that we could possibly get some sleep. We had the whole of Friday and then Saturday headed back in the afternoon...but it took forever because of the usual stopping here and taking forever. Indians on vacation are the world's longest lingerers. They want to snack or have chai at every stop, take pictures of everything and not even with a decent camera but with their phones. And then I had Sunday off and came back to work on Monday, to find them all very quiet and meek again.
My cousin Rayag is back in Mumbai, although I've only seen him once. This brings me to the next point: NL and AK are moving out of their Colaba flat and into a new small one they got that's a little further. They were offering to let the place out to Vilgaile and myself to be closer to work but Rayag will be our flatmate. I'm hesitating a little to live with him but it's a great area and the rent will be a little higher but they are also apparently arranging for me to have a raise to afford to live in Colaba, as well. I don't really want to leave my flatmates but I have a feeling I will be there very often anyway in Andheri. But to have to avoid the long commute and actually have time to do other things, like go to the gym in the morning, write or draw and do it on a table, I think I can do this for the rest of the year. I have to make a decision soon because someone needs to take my place and I have to sort out the bills and such.
I'm feeling a little sad leaving my flatmates. People are advising me: people come and go but I've learned that I like having people, the connections are not always made but apparently I bring some kind of energy to a place that make people happy. And I think I am a good friend and good at being a friend. Vilgaile and I get along great, she has her own interests and I have mine and we have mutual ones for sure. I don't know what my patience with Rayag will be like but he's generally okay.
Also, I don't like feeling like I'm somehow abandoning my babies over at the Flat, like...if I leave somehow everything will start malfunctioning. But since I came to India, I've hardly drawn or written. It's not always comfortable at the flat because of the fact that the washing machine is a monster, the fridge doesn't work and there's no furniture except for random stuff. And I will miss them. My flatmates.
I also don't want it to seem like I'm getting out of the Vas-Stas triangle. But it would be nice to deal with it without having to also live with both of them. Or maybe date some other nice fella, who knows.
I honestly am currently a little lost making all these adult decisions. But it's part of life, isn't it? Even at work, I'm feeling a little lost because I'm being given some big responsibilities at work and can't help but feel like it's too much or I am too stupid and in a sense, coming home to my flatmates is good for that because they normally try to cheer me up. I like to cook with them and clean with them--but in this situation, I went with my head, not with the heart. I keep telling myself it's not like I won't see them. But you know, they did become my family while over here, not just my good friends.
Last night, I watched a movie with Vasiliy. I'll admit it was because I felt kind of sorry for the guy and I'm broke so he paid for it. Neither of us wanted to call it a date, so we mutually agreed not to call it that. But he was very sweet and a gentleman as usual. But then I came home and Stas was up and I wanted to talk to him but we kind of randomly waited for Vasiliy to go to bed because otherwise, he would sit there with us and hover. Or talk to Stasys in Russian, defeating the purpose of everything. Anyway, Stas said he would miss me (hehehehehe)!
I will try Colaba for sometime and see how that works out. We also have a new intern in my company and her name is Gosia from Poland and she's pretty cool and she'll be taking my place at the flat. Bazinga!
More soon. I am thinking of heading to Delhi-Varanasi as we have a holiday and I can take one day of leave for it at the end of January. We will see how the money situation holds out. :) I'm so broke right now, I'm not even kidding. And what's worse is that salary is so delayed! It's late for a couple days.
Another weird thing is that the other day, an officemate found a pin in one of our usual office lunches so we tried a different one today. It wasn't as good and worse, it seemed to go straight through me and I feel like I have to somehow fill my life with more fiber so I'm sitting here having muesli for dinner and I've actually come to the point where I have lost so much weight without even trying that my mother has been calling me in alarm because she thinks I'm too poor to eat/starving myself.
Also, Vilgaile and I made it to the tabloids for illegally salsa dancing. ;D More on that later.
Vilgaile came on Jan 6, just as we left for company picnic to Dapoli in Konkan. It's a lovely area, very rural and there are virgin beaches everywhere, just flat sand and nice surf. But as you can expect, I slept through most of it, or tried to because traveling with Indians is a little challenging, I discovered. We left around midnight from the office (having a late shift, don't worry) and until 4 in the morning, they insisted on blaring very loud Hindi party music and dancing in the bus, standing up. To me it was very dangerous and susprising because some of them (all of them, actually) are SO MEEK in the office, always saying "Yes, Arvindsir, Nanamam" all the time! And here they were making a huge ruckus while Vilgaile and I thought that we could possibly get some sleep. We had the whole of Friday and then Saturday headed back in the afternoon...but it took forever because of the usual stopping here and taking forever. Indians on vacation are the world's longest lingerers. They want to snack or have chai at every stop, take pictures of everything and not even with a decent camera but with their phones. And then I had Sunday off and came back to work on Monday, to find them all very quiet and meek again.
My cousin Rayag is back in Mumbai, although I've only seen him once. This brings me to the next point: NL and AK are moving out of their Colaba flat and into a new small one they got that's a little further. They were offering to let the place out to Vilgaile and myself to be closer to work but Rayag will be our flatmate. I'm hesitating a little to live with him but it's a great area and the rent will be a little higher but they are also apparently arranging for me to have a raise to afford to live in Colaba, as well. I don't really want to leave my flatmates but I have a feeling I will be there very often anyway in Andheri. But to have to avoid the long commute and actually have time to do other things, like go to the gym in the morning, write or draw and do it on a table, I think I can do this for the rest of the year. I have to make a decision soon because someone needs to take my place and I have to sort out the bills and such.
I'm feeling a little sad leaving my flatmates. People are advising me: people come and go but I've learned that I like having people, the connections are not always made but apparently I bring some kind of energy to a place that make people happy. And I think I am a good friend and good at being a friend. Vilgaile and I get along great, she has her own interests and I have mine and we have mutual ones for sure. I don't know what my patience with Rayag will be like but he's generally okay.
Also, I don't like feeling like I'm somehow abandoning my babies over at the Flat, like...if I leave somehow everything will start malfunctioning. But since I came to India, I've hardly drawn or written. It's not always comfortable at the flat because of the fact that the washing machine is a monster, the fridge doesn't work and there's no furniture except for random stuff. And I will miss them. My flatmates.
I also don't want it to seem like I'm getting out of the Vas-Stas triangle. But it would be nice to deal with it without having to also live with both of them. Or maybe date some other nice fella, who knows.
I honestly am currently a little lost making all these adult decisions. But it's part of life, isn't it? Even at work, I'm feeling a little lost because I'm being given some big responsibilities at work and can't help but feel like it's too much or I am too stupid and in a sense, coming home to my flatmates is good for that because they normally try to cheer me up. I like to cook with them and clean with them--but in this situation, I went with my head, not with the heart. I keep telling myself it's not like I won't see them. But you know, they did become my family while over here, not just my good friends.
Last night, I watched a movie with Vasiliy. I'll admit it was because I felt kind of sorry for the guy and I'm broke so he paid for it. Neither of us wanted to call it a date, so we mutually agreed not to call it that. But he was very sweet and a gentleman as usual. But then I came home and Stas was up and I wanted to talk to him but we kind of randomly waited for Vasiliy to go to bed because otherwise, he would sit there with us and hover. Or talk to Stasys in Russian, defeating the purpose of everything. Anyway, Stas said he would miss me (hehehehehe)!
I will try Colaba for sometime and see how that works out. We also have a new intern in my company and her name is Gosia from Poland and she's pretty cool and she'll be taking my place at the flat. Bazinga!
More soon. I am thinking of heading to Delhi-Varanasi as we have a holiday and I can take one day of leave for it at the end of January. We will see how the money situation holds out. :) I'm so broke right now, I'm not even kidding. And what's worse is that salary is so delayed! It's late for a couple days.
Another weird thing is that the other day, an officemate found a pin in one of our usual office lunches so we tried a different one today. It wasn't as good and worse, it seemed to go straight through me and I feel like I have to somehow fill my life with more fiber so I'm sitting here having muesli for dinner and I've actually come to the point where I have lost so much weight without even trying that my mother has been calling me in alarm because she thinks I'm too poor to eat/starving myself.
Also, Vilgaile and I made it to the tabloids for illegally salsa dancing. ;D More on that later.
